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Brian Sheen, Ph.D. has been involved with Complementary and Alternative Medicine research and development for the past 47 years. He is the founder of the Florida Institute of Complementary and Alternative Medicine (FICAM), which has trained individuals in the knowledge and know-how for maximizing wellness, enhancing emotional intelligence and creating optimal performance for living an empowered life. Through his books, CD’s, school and online training programs Dr. Sheen’s evidence-based work integrates the mind, body, emotions and spirit to activate the body’s inner pharmacy to return the endocrine system back to balance and health. This he has termed Quantum Embodiment®; the optimal wellness, balance and functioning between each level of human existence: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and in relationships. Dr. Sheen’s inspiration for this came from his work with the United States Jaycees in the early 1980’s that led to his being awarded their prestigious Seiji Horiuchi Award for outstanding achievement with his personal development programs. Dr. Sheen has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN, ABC, NBC, CBS and PBS to share his insights and techniques. He is the author of numerous self-improvement books, articles and CD series. Dr. Sheen has worked with wide demographics of families, individuals, groups, schools and businesses sharing his specialized tools and strategies throughout the world.

Choosing Pain and Betrayal-Part 1-Trish

This blog is a case study reveals of many of the underlying principles of what FICAM teaches and how it is used private sessions. This approach has helped many clients move out of “poor me” victim consciousness into a state of peaceful and empowered consciousness itself. It also shows important sequences about how to effectively use forgiveness in a therapeutic way that takes one beyond declaring “I forgive you, I forgive myself”. Forgiveness without correction of the underlying beliefs which were the source of the decisions made is an empty gesture. MOST forgiveness is an ego directed attempt to feel superior over the person being pardoned!

Trish knocked hard on the door in desperation. When I opened it I saw her normally strong athletic form knotted up and as flimsy as a wet noodle. Her eyes were vacant as if she had been drained of her blood by a vampire. I was to learn this perception wasn’t far from the truth!

“I am miserable! I can’t sleep, can’t eat and I feel so depressed” she cried as she plopped herself down on the couch. “I really hate this guy for what he’s done to me; lying, cheating, putting me in debt and using the money I lent him for hookers He betrayed me that bastard. How can anybody do that to someone they say they love? ”

Trish had experienced what all to many have in their lives, betrayal, feeling like a victim. It was a rude awakening from the fantasies she had concocted in her mind of finally finding the man of her dreams. What Trish had forgotten, and most everyone does forget, is that when you believe your wishes, dreams and desires are about to fulfilled you go into the trance of feeling happy, special and loving! Wish fulfillment is the essence of the egos drive to get what it believes will finally make it happy and special.

A Course in Miracles shares it this way:

“Everyone seeks what will bring him joy as he defines it.” ACIM Ch 25 –IV Your power of decision is the determiner of every situation in which you find yourself in by chance or accident. When you feel you are lacking something; happiness, love or success, you imagine what it is you need to get based on what you believe you are missing. This inner picture of being incomplete and lacking becomes your inner guide for how you will look at and experience life. From this state of awareness you begin to imagine what you need to get to avoid the pain you are experiencing coming from your beliefs you are unloved, unworthy or inadequate. Now you form a picture of finding someone to love you, make you happy and fill in the hole you have decided you have inside to you. This is what a “special relationship” is all about, finding a substitute for your denial of your truth as being love and being worthy because you were created by God/Life/Existence. As your choices are based on your denial of your divine beingness and creation, you naturally betray the gifts you were given as you attach yourself to the egoic beliefs you need something outside you to complete you!

It is not until these principles are understood AND put into practice that healing and empowerment can return. This is why we use so many tools to uncover the underlying nature of how a persons mind has been constructed to understand what needs to be done to have it built on truth not false perceptions stemming form unresolved issues from childhood that still direct your thinking and choices today!

As I will share in part 2 of this 3 part blog on Trish. She made some startling revelations as to why she really felt the way she did and why she kept choosing these types of relationships over and over again.

FICAM’s training uses hypnosis, regressions and Quantum Psychology to face, embrace, trace the causes of the anxiety, depression, anger and need for special relationship to uproot the seeds of suffering to replace them with the peace of truth. What is so amazing about this work is, when the roots of the underlying patterns of wrong minded thinking and decision making are pulled, the pattern disappear and new possibilities naturally flow as if the damn holding back the peace and joy has been demolished.

Self Sabotage and Projection-Part 2 Trish

This is part two of the case study I entitled Choosing Pain and Betrayal.This reveals of many of the underlying principles of what FICAM teaches for use in healing, coaching and therapy.

An important key in understanding how the mind works is, you are never upset for the reason you think. Never! NEVER EVER!! A person choosing the ego mind to look at things ALWAYS chooses a wrong target as the cause of its upset. It always chooses someone or something that has failed to satisfy a wish or desire of what they believe is supposed to or desired to happen. ALWAYS!

Trish tried to make her upset all about the misrepresentations her new husband made to her and was quite startled when I turned things around and asked “Have you ever done anything similar yourself?” Her eyes went ablaze with righteous indignation for a moment as if I was ignoring all the horrible actions her husband took and somehow she was responsible for. This I assured her was not my intent. “You ARE responsible for your response to this situation and for the decisions you made for marrying him to fulfill your fantasy of finally being good enough to be married and to “prove” this first to yourself and then to your family and friends. This is the essence of a ego directed special relationship and what “special” love is all about. You are reeled in by your intense wishes and desires that place you in a trance state of wish fulfillment. You become blinded with the belief you have finally realized your dream and ignore all the handwriting on the wall that the person isn’t who you imagine them to be.”

As we spoke more I began to see Trish starting to connect to the knowledge I was sharing with her. Slowly the light in her eyes began to return and her victim embodiment began to become more empowered. “I think I am beginning to get what you are saying. I should have realized immediately things weren’t right with him when I had to pick up at the jailhouse on our first date. I tried to convince myself his drinking and odd behaviors was nothing serious and would get better once he had be in his life. OMG that was nuts wasn’t it. I so wanted to end the pain I felt all these years believing I was unlovable and I’d always be alone I ignore the message life was sending me and denied the facts that were before me”

This was the beginning of a major insight to ongoing pattern of relationships and opened the door to the much bigger issue of all the times in her life. She did the same things to her boyfriends, lying,cheating and taking advantage of them financially when possible. This brought to the forefront piles of guilt and shame that she held inside and projected on her husband. She successfully had sabotaged her relationship long before she found out about all his cheating and lies. Now forgiveness could go much deeper and forgive herself to help break the pattern she had been stuck in.

Yet this to was not enough to heal and make the necessary corrections even after going through each relationship in her life and owning and forgiving the mistakes she had continually made. Correction and true healing from the Quantum Embodiment perspective I teach at FICAM is NOT about mowing the weeds so the garden looks better for a short while. Our therapeutic goal is always to reach down and pull the roots out so this thinking will not sprout again. This means reaching even further within to uncover the reason why she decided to use the strategies she had that brought her into this relationship and kept her trapped in it.

This I will share in the the final part 3blog “Wounds and Scars” as Trish uncovers how and why she had always cheated on her boyfriends and sabotaged them despite feeling miserable and enraged at her partner.

Angie

Wounds and Scars – Part 3 Trish

This is the final part of the case study I entitled Choosing Pain and Betrayal.

Our wounds and scars only tell us where we have been, not where we are going. It is up to you to interpret your experience. You decide whether those experiences will now define your life or will be placed far behind you as an unfortunate event that you survived and learned some helpful life lessons from. For Trish, the wounds her mother inflicted upon her as a young child leaving her neglected while she drank, did drugs and “entertained” different men every night, left a lasting impression. These impressions became the core of a dis-empowered self image that told her she was unlovable, inadequate and should always be ready for her partner to betray her. She watched intently as her mother taught her an insane strategy based her her negative self worth: hurt them before they hurt you !

Trish got entangled in the web of fear, self-hatred, guilt, anger and desperation which her mother spun. Little did she know ALL of the strategies and attitudes the one and only caring adult in her life shared with her only let to suffering, sabotage, betrayal and substance abuse. Yet wanting to survive and having only her mother to model, she established for herself a life filled with pain, broken relationships, substance abuse and terror of living a life of loneliness. She learned to hurt “them” before they hurt and discarded her. She betrayed first herself and then her partner over and over to be so filled with guilt her projection and fear sabotaged any chance she had for a loving relationship.

Yet, her lifetime of poor choices which included her new husband was really giving her an opportunity to pay close attention to her inner world to acknowledge the changes that needed to be made deep inside. Now, finally in touch with the underlying cause of her issues she had the opportunity to pull the roots of these deadly weeds and replace them with healthy seeds of beautiful flower, fruit trees and the like. It was time to stop playing the victim and staying trapped in a sad story of scarcity and neediness and to open the heart and mind to the space of love, peace and pure, free, forever!

The drama of Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling provides us all a great opportunity for learning how to heal when choosing love and forgiveness. This is an essential element in the FICAM training process,

The provocative statement of Jesus may provide a good introduction; ‘Let he that is without sin among you cast the first stone” John 8:7 reveals what the A Course in Miracles. ACIM, shares (a core of what FICAM teaches and uses in our work) “Any concept of punishment involves the projection of blame, and reinforces the idea that blame is justified” The result is a lesson in blame not in forgiveness and love which is our path to freedom and peace.

The ego has of a divisive and murderous nature. It obtains satisfaction from causing chaos and conflict as it obeys its masters of sin, guilt and fear. Based on the erroneous belief of separation from the Oneness of God, Love and Truth, the ego strives to maintain its illusions. To the ego forgiveness, love and truth are its enemies and must be avoided at all costs. Secretly the ego dedicates its thoughts and actions to death being itself the antithesis of Life. Death means the destruction of your rightful place as a holy innocent child of God whose spiritual essence is replaced by a physical essence. The egos apparent repulsion of pain and guilt is really its’ attraction to it as it needs to convince the Knower of the mind that it is what it isn’t! It’s attacking thoughts and actions distract you from the ego’s false self lies to avoid being exposed as the great imposter. The ego will declare that’s its actions are justifiable as punishment is the price one must pay for sinning. Being exiled and excluded from the Oneness is vital or else the real underlying reason for these actions will be revealed. This is called projection. Projection is the egos attempt to distract you from looking within to ensure it avoids the layers of guilt it holds on to by focusing its and everyone else’s attention on the Perpetrator Du Jour!

Yet this is but the tip of the iceberg! As destructive and insane as the ego is, this is multiplied a thousand as the collective egoic minds are united in their witch hunts. The collective unconscious egoic mind seeks to find evil everywhere around them except inside their own mind which perceives it. As Pogo once said…” I have seen the enemy and they is us!” We all have a shadow within. It is through facing and embracing our prejudicial thoughts and letting them out they can be seen in the light so correction can occur. This provides an opportunity to find another way to let the light of truth replace the darkness or ignorance. Perhaps Lincoln said it best, “I destroy my enemy when I make him my friend”! (These same sentiments are shared by the Course.

There are extraordinary popular illusions and a madness of crowds as “group egoic think” takes over to form alliances to attack the enemy they believe is outside them. Group thinking throws away all reason or restraint and takes aim at anyway who dares to speak against it.

Iraq is an excellent recent example as fear mongers with ulterior motives cast a spell of fear that Iraq had weapons of mass destruction waiting to destroy us. They bamboozled our country into believing it was a case of kill or be killed. Hundreds of thousands of lost lives later and untold misery for millions, the reason for starting the war was an extraordinary popular illusion creating a madness in the crowds of our country as “group egoic think” took over. All reason was set aside as the beast of the ego mind needed to be fed. Any one who dared oppose it was labeled a traitor and placed under suspicion. The Patriot Act set aside our cherished Constitutional rights; the rights to privacy, free speech and obtaining a speedy trial were all crushed. I strongly suggest you see the documentary ” In Prosecution of George W. Bush for Murder” by Vincent Bugliosi to learn the facts which were distorted and deleted to incite this war.This too needs forgiveness once the mistakes are owned.

Donald Sterling said some unloving things that doesn’t fit today belief system of being PC, politically correct. Mr. Sterling like all of us has a split mind filled with ignorance, anger and hatred and another part filled with love, knowledge and truth. He is a spiritual being having a human experience and was in his wrong mind when he said what he did. This does not justify his mistakes but provides us an opportunity to practice compassion. I wonder…have you ever said mean and nasty things in a fit of rage, drunkenness or fear? Worse have you ever had unloving thoughts about another? Does labeling Sterling a sinner bring peace to anyone?

‘Isn’t it strange that as with the false attack on Iraq, Sterling rights to privacy and freedom of speech were ignored. Sterling was declared guilty without a trial and punished as a criminal. To justify this some say it’s his karma because of other actions he had done to minorities in the past. Yet the fact is he has never even been accused of or found guilty of violating federal laws of discrimination in his NBA actions. Ironically he was about to receive his second award from the NAACP because of “a body of work. Mr. Sterling’s organization has on a consistent basis brought in the minority community. He has also over the years contributed to a number of minority charities. Compared to other L.A. franchises, his organization gave more money than the others.” And this was done with the full knowledge that he paid over 2.7 million dollars in 2009 to settle a lawsuit in alleged discrimination in renting apartments he owned.

This is a great opportunity to learn what the basis of FICAM teaches for healing to occur from ACIM “All things are lessons God would have me learn. Forgiveness is our function as love holds no grievances as the but hide the light of the world in me. Holding any grievance is an attack on God and ourselves” We are being given a chance to remember this and reclaim our truth. Instead of attacking and condemning lets look at this with both an open mind and heart. Are we saying that a man who grew up in a country and spent the first 39 years of his life where prejudice was legal in a major portion of our country should not have any wrong-minded ideas still floating about in his head? Can we not hear his call for love as he thought this V. Stivano 51 years younger, who was herself a mixture of black and Mexican heritage, really cared about him? Are we saying his mistakes are unforgivable sins which deserve hell and damnation and not forgiveness and correction? And who is seeking to profit from all this, his mistress to avoid the multi-million dollar lawsuit Don Sterling’s wife filed against her two months back to recover millions her husband gave V. Stivano? The potential new owners want to swoop down and buy the franchise for pennies on the dollar. Do you really think if we reviewed the words and thoughts of NBA owners they haven’t said degrading words about another behind peoples backs? What about peoples rejection of another as a potential spouse because they are of a different religion or support an opposing political party or are just from “the wrong side of the tracks” ? Isn’t this unloving and separatist too? What about all the prejudicial views and profiling of Moslems thinking of them as potential terrorists..is this any different?

‘Let he who hath no unloving thoughts cast the first stone.’ Lets use a different set of beliefs to guide us that seeks patience, tolerance and forgiveness. As A Course in Miracles reminds us it is only through forgiveness that we remove the stain of ignorance from our mind and open up to remember the divine truth within us all. Let each person accusing Sterling of his prejudice look within themselves to find the shadows they hide and avoid ever speaking about except in their minds. There is another way and perhaps this is our time to pause and ask for guidance from Love’s Presence waiting to be chosen instead. Let us say NO to the blood thirsty ego and Yes to our Higher Power of right-mindedness waiting to be called on. “Do not judge or you will be judged” Matthew 7:1 or as Mother Theresa reminded us so well
“People are unreasonable,illogical and self-centered.Love them anyway. In the final analysis it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway”

“This is another way!” and this is what FICAM teaches to live in peace, happiness and wellness.

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It is a long established fact that a reader will be distracted by the readable content of a page when looking at its layout. The point of using Lorem Ipsum is that it has a more-or-less normal distribution of letters, as opposed to using ‘Content here, content here’, making it look like readable English. Many desktop publishing packages and web page editors now use Lorem Ipsum as their default model text, and a search for ‘lorem ipsum’ will uncover many web sites still in their infancy. Various versions have evolved over the years, sometimes by accident, sometimes on purpose (injected humour and the like).

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